Worried about a Kidderminster lie detector test for Infidelity

Our West Midlands Polygraph Examiner dealt with this query for a Kidderminster lie detector test. It comes from someone who is worried about their booked appointment.

Q: Will my infidelity come out on a lie detector test if it happened over 15 years ago?

My husband has booked a Kidderminster lie detector test for me next week. We have been married for 15 years and I have never cheated on him.

Throughout our marriage he has always been overly possessive and jealous, but not to the extent that he is controlling.  We argue if I am 5 minutes late home from work, or from a night out with the girls mainly because he accuses me of sleeping with other men. But other than that, we get on well.

The last row we had tipped me over the top. I am tired of being accused of things I haven’t done and suggested booking a lie detector test to put an end to the accusations. The speed with which he got online and booked the test was amazing.

My problem is that I did something stupid on my hen night. I went with some friends to Ibiza for a week and celebrated the hen night there. As a result of lots of booze, I slept with a waiter in the hotel we were staying at. Naturally my husband doesn’t know about this.

Will it show up in my test results?

A. J., Kidderminster

Response from West Midlands Polygraph Examiner

It very much depends on the questions your husband has formulated with the polygraph examiner who is conducting the test.

For example, if he wants to know if you have been unfaithful since you married him, your dalliance with the waiter won’t be an issue.  However, if he wants to know whether infidelity has occurred since your relationship began, it will.

We note that you say your husband’s behaviour is not controlling. Yet you acknowledge that you argue if you are late home and that he accuses you of infidelity on such occasions. That is controlling behaviour.

Clearly, he feels insecure or inadequate or both. At some point you will need to address this issue because there could be many reasons for it. Sometimes it can be that the accusing partner is cheating and gaslighting the other. In your case it might be that has known about your one-night stand but never confronted you with it. Secrets like this have ways of coming out.

Perhaps you should book a Couples lie detector test so that you both know where you stand.

In any event, our free helpline is available if you would like to discuss the matter further. Please state that the West Midlands Polygraph Examiner has advised you to call.