The location of this enquiry has been changed to protect the identity of the sender.  Our Northampton Polygraph Examiner advises a wife who is anxious about her headmaster husband’s behaviour.

Q: Could a lie detector test establish the true nature of the relationship between my husband and one of his pupils?

My husband has a very stressful and responsible job. He’s the headmaster at a private academy. I’m writing as recently he seems to be there more than he is at home. I’ve also heard rumours of him having the same girl in detention for weeks. When I asked him about this he told me she’s disruptive in class and needs some extra tuition. This may be true but it’s getting pretty uncomfortable. Last week, she was in detention 4 days out of 5. I’m surprised her parents haven’t complained.

The other day whilst I was doing his washing, I found a note in his pocket from someone. I presume it was the girl as it stated detention was better than school and she’d much rather be having sex than doing homework. She hoped he’d give her a good grade at the end of it.

I went mad and threw the note at him. He was shocked and claimed she had put it there to make us argue and cause disruption to his personal life as well as his working life. He said she was clearly angry about her detention and told me not to be silly.

I just can’t stop thinking about it. If she’s that bad why wouldn’t he expel her or even just suspend her? Do you think there’s anything going on and could a lie detector test help me? It isn’t just our 20 year marriage that’s at stake here; it’s his career and our family reputation. If he gets struck off for inappropriate behaviour I don’t know what I’d do. She’s also only 15 so he could go to prison.

D. G., Northampton

Response from Northampton Polygraph Examiner

In answer to your question, I have no doubt that a lie detector test will establish whether your husband is telling the truth or not.

However, he should be made aware that he is playing with fire.  If the girl needs extra tuition then he should not be delivering it in the light of the note.  He should also hand the note over to his superiors.  Whether these are false allegations or not, he could easily be suspended until investigations into the matter are completed.

It is possible that the girl is seeking revenge because of the detention or she may have developed a ‘crush’ on your husband.  It’s not unusual for girls of this age. Nevertheless, your husband is putting himself at risk if he continues with these sessions. He should delegate the extra tuition to another member of staff, preferably a female.

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