Gillingham Polygraph Examiner advises on Infidelity Suspicions

This query came from a wife who is worried that her husband may be seeing another woman. Our Gillingham Polygraph Examiner responded to it.

Q: Can a lie detector test prove whether my husband is being unfaithful to me?

Around a month ago I was on my way home from work and got held up at road works.  As the traffic began moving, other cars were trying to filter into my lane.  The one I let in looked like my husband’s car so I flashed my headlights.  The gesture wasn’t acknowledged and I noticed a woman in the car so thought perhaps I was wrong.  I recorded the number plate on my phone.

When my husband got home from work, I said I’d seen him on the road where the roadworks were.  Firstly he said it wasn’t him.  I looked out of the window at his car on the drive and checked the number plate. It was the same as the one I recorded. He said I must have recorded it wrongly but I knew I hadn’t.  He pointed out that it couldn’t have been him because he was at work at the time. Since I had seen the car at 4:00pm when he would usually be at work, I let it go.

The problem is I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind.  I know it was his car, there was a woman in it and he ignored me when I flashed my lights.  I’ve done all the normal things like checking his phone, going through his pockets and looking on his laptop but I can’t find anything that suggests he is having an affair.  I even borrowed a friend’s car and followed him to work one day and that’s when something odd happened. He left work early and I tried to follow him without being noticed.  Somehow I think he spotted me and raced so fast ahead that I lost him.

When he got home, I asked how his day had been and he never mentioned leaving work early. I’m now paranoid.

I’ve heard lie detector tests can help with this type of problem. Can you help me?

  1. D., Gillingham

Response from Gillingham Polygraph Examiner

An infidelity lie detector test can help you to establish whether your husband is being deceitful or not.  However, you will need to convince him to take the test.

I suggest you tell him how suspicion is affecting you.  Tell him about the day you followed him and ask him where he was going.  Why didn’t he mention it on the day when you asked?

The problem with this type of doubt is it won’t go away until you know the truth.  Suspicions of infidelity destroy relationships, sometimes more than the infidelity itself.

If required, out friendly and confidential customer care staff can be reached on our free helpline to give you some tips on how to persuade your husband to take the lie detector test. They will also be able to give you more information about the procedure. Please let them know that the Gillingham Polygraph Examiner has recommended you call.